So I’ve been trying to articulate why straight, rich white girls going to pride bothers me so much, and I think I’ve figured it out.
Straight, white rich girls are not part of any struggling minority group. They are so privileged, and their worldview is so narrow, that their attempt to sympathize with the gay community comes off as vapid.
They show up to pride as if they are part of the movement, when they are so far removed from the struggle, that their plethora of facebook pictures with gay men dressed wildly (or in nothing at all) as a way of EXPRESSING THEMSELVES is sick.
Gay pride is NOT an excuse for you to show up to a citywide party in a bikini top and spandex, it is a movement for the HUMAN RIGHTS of an ENTIRE SECT OF SEXUALITY.
Which brings me to another point. A straight girl kissing another girl for the sake of a facebook novelty is as offensive to lesbians as stretching your eyes out for an Asian-themed picture is to Asians. Only worse. Because lesbians are already faced with the struggle of their relationship being devalued on a daily basis because it is so sexualized by the media and exploited by attention-starved girls in crowded rooms.
“Wow. You’re being like… Really mean. We’re totally there to support the gays!”
A) Why are you embarrassedly asking to take pictures with especially flamboyant gay men to POST ON FACEBOOK instead of genuinely congratulating everyone there for their newly recognized human rights
B) You don’t know what support for the gays is. You want another reason to look hot in a facebook album, and piss off your conservative parents.
Now I’m not saying that we shouldn’t show our support, but that brings me to my second point.
If you think showing up to a celebratory parade for a repressed group of people to “show your support” makes you a good person, you’re flagrantly wrong. Actually, being a good person takes a lot of hard work, effort, and strength of morale.
You say you want to make a difference. Now I want you take a second, and ask yourself a question. Do you want to make a difference? Or do you want to LOOK like you want to make a difference, as long as you get something out of it along the way? Whether that be a party, a social event, a new facebook album, or an instragram photo…
Save the crop tops and neon for raves and Lovefest, and leave the activism parades for people who actually give a fuck. In the meantime, please get off my newsfeed, because you look insipid, insulting, and self-obsessed.